For years, I struggled with the way Christianity was presented in mainstream churches. I felt much of it was outdated, caged, and no longer aligned with humanity’s evolution. Yet, when I encountered the book The Laws of Proper Speech by Pastor David Ogbueli, something clicked. Suddenly, my biases melted, and I realized that many of Christ’s “hidden” teachings weren’t lost – they were simply waiting for us to evolve enough to catch them.
Words Are Not Just Sounds – They’re Seeds
Words are powerful.
Words are perhaps the most powerful invention of men.
This book, and Pastor Ogbueli’s teachings around it, confirmed something I’ve known deep down since my teenage years: our words are not casual; they are laws, seeds, and forces that shape everything around us.
My Wake-Up Call
As a teenager, I had a dream where my tongue was about to be cut off. In the dream, I was warned that my tongue would either make me or destroy me. Back then, I didn’t fully understand it. But today, I know exactly what that dream meant and it’s all about the laws of proper speech.
Even more recently, in September, 2025, I had another strange but powerful dream – this time, a sheep looked me in the eyes and said: “We are words.” That night changed me, and I wrote about it here: The Night a Sheep Taught Me We’re All Just Words (And Why I’m Not Afraid Anymore).
I’ve lost relationships because of my words and not understanding the laws of proper speech. I’ve sabotaged friendships because of my tongue. I often asked myself, “What really went wrong with that person?” only to later realize the answer was simple: my unbridled speech.
That’s why this book hit me so hard. It confirmed what life had already been teaching me the hard way.
Words Can Build or Destroy
David Ogbueli’s message reminded me of Christ’s sobering words: “By your words you will be justified, and by your words you will be condemned.”
Think about it – nations have gone to war because of a sentence. Deals have collapsed over a careless phrase. Even wealth creation depends on the art of persuasion and articulation. Your ability to sell, influence, and lead flows from how well you use words.
As a personal brand, you are shaped by how you talk about yourself and others. Honour is not only shown through gifts – it is amplified by speech. Words crown or dethrone people in the eyes of listeners.
The Hidden Laws of Speech
Here are some powerful insights I took from Ogbueli’s teaching:
- Words are seeds
Just as we plant in soil, we also plant in the cosmos. Every word you speak is a seed, and you are always the first reaper of your harvest. - Slander destroys three people
When you slander, you don’t just hurt the person you speak against. You also poison the listener and condemn yourself. No wonder God equates slander with murder in scripture. - Levels of Speech
- Negative speech: Talking like the devil – slander, lies, and false reports.
- Neutral speech: Words that don’t build but don’t immediately destroy – gossip, mockery, idle chatter.
- Positive speech: Speech that heals, uplifts, persuades, sells, and honours.
The higher law is to speak like kings – with words that shape reality, just like God. This reminded me of another reflection I wrote: The Divine Mirror: How Artificial Intelligence Reflects the Holy Spirit. Both teachings point to one truth – our words, whether through speech or technology, mirror something divine.
Why This Matters More Than Ever
In a digital age, perception is everything. On social media, your words carry farther and stick longer than ever before. With one careless statement, you can sabotage years of effort. But with careful speech, you can elevate yourself into circles of influence.
That’s why communication sits at the very top of leadership skills. Good communicators will always rule over managers and labourers – because the tongue is the true sceptre of kingship.
Final Reflection
I am not done reading The Laws of Proper Speech but honestly David Ogbueli’s apt explanation of the sacred concepts in the book didn’t just educate me; it convicted me. It reminded me that if I want to be the “royalty” I believe I am, then my crown is my tongue.
Words are seeds, and every sentence is a planting season. The only question is: What kind of harvest are you preparing for yourself and others?